Tonight’s talk started out with me saying “I am out of clean clothes, do you think you might be able to do laundry tomorrow?” and from there led to “By the way, you mentioned a long time ago that you would like to make dinner once a week or so, do you still feel like you want to do that?” Finally I got to my real question which was, “Do you think I should ’take it easy’ on you and avoid asking you to do things because you are depressed and need taking care of, or do you think I should just start asking you to do the things I want you to do?”
Anyway, I made her very upset, mostly because she feels like now she is not going to be able to do the writing assignments she pledged to do and that I should have known that this was a bad time to talk about things. Yes, I probably should have known, because she DID tell me about the writing projects and I said at the time that I would be supportive. I probably should have just said “Hey can you do laundry tomorrow” and left it at that.