I created a filter with just you on it.  I made sure that group was selected before typing beyond the first line, and I will also double-check that it’s locked after posting.  I will try to make sure there is a suitable tag on the post as well but this may not be 100%.

Here are some of the things I would love to talk more about.

Me and miche, you and miche, and helping her Church, religion, and belief systems SCA, The Dream, households, being part of something larger than oneself Other ways to be part of something larger than oneself Our life goals, 1, 5 and 10 years out Brains, thoughts, emotions, senses, beliefs, behavior

I have learned that Miche would love for you to call her more often.  She says she rarely calls you because she always gets voicemail, but she would like to talk to you more often, so call.

I get the feeling she still feels hurt over a comment you made a long time ago that fanfic is crap.  I sat there while you both talked about it, and I *heard* you say that you have changed your mind and are now able to appreciate fanfic.  Evidently Miche heard something else and she *now* thinks that you have a low opinion of Smallville stories but that QAF stories are cool.  This is probably an example of “when guessing how others feel about me, interpret everything as worst case” which happens sometimes, especially if she is already emotionally down.

Anyway, not much you can do except try to tell her how you feel, again.  If you haven’t seen her smallville stories and you want to, you could also just ask to be added to the filter, and leave explaining feelings aside for now.  You probably should explain how you feel about it but you can choose the time for that.  For her part, she usually assumes that someone else *knows* how *she* feels, which they often don’t.  Obviously she is so good at guessing how people feel without asking them (not), then it must logically follow that everyone else is picking up on her signals and knowing what she thinks and feels without her telling them (not).  But it’s not something that needs to be resolved immediately… I would say for  now you may want to focus on just calling her and getting her back in the habit of being able to just hang on the phone for a bit.

I know you’re a big girl and can handle your own relationships with friends, but you did express concern and ask for my advise.  Take the above as “something to think about” and not necessarily that I’m saying you *should* or *must* do anything.

OK v. tired, must sleeping.  Be well, love.